A Working Mom… Yes, You Can!
Every working woman has these back voices… You know, the “you can’t do it!” or “a mother should be at home for her children, to raise and love them unconditionally.” I had these in the back of my head and sometimes people lectured me about them. I chose not to listen.
It strikes me to hear how being a mother is a term, and some women take that term and live in it; losing their identity, losing their selves.
When I had my first child is when it all started. I am very work-driven and I love life, but again, who doesn’t love life? Now, I have the most precious daughter whom I love unconditionally even if I work every day of the week, every hour of the day; I still make time for her, and I make time for me and for my career.
See the challenge in “motherhood” is defining who you are. Are you a stay-at-home mother? Or are you a working mother? Are you willing to go the extra mile? Because believe me, if I can do it, then you can too.
All you need is balance. Balance your emotions, your behaviour and your time.
And then, priority. I am not saying that it is easy to balance being a mother and having a career. What I am saying is that it is possible. You absolutely can succeed in both.
The most ridiculous questions I have experienced were:
“Who takes care of your child?”
I do! I am a professional, with a nanny and a mother who care for my child but do not replace me.
“Do you trust your nanny?”
I refuse to answer this question because only a mother would understand how much it would take for her to leave her child.
Every day, I come to work with a big smile on my face because this is who I am. I present in front of my clients with a smile because I know that my child would be so proud of what I am and what I am capable of. And I went back home with my heart pounding so quickly every single day now for three years, longing for that hug from my daughter
welcoming me by the door.
I really advise you to only listen to the voice within you, the positive side telling you “yes, you can!” and “you can do even more, just put your mind into it!”